Now the theme of the post tonight is basically about relationships, whether this is friendship or with a partner but i guess it's mostly aimed at friendship. Near the end of 2009 I got more "involved" with a friend of mine, she is a girl as well. Lets call her Cathy. To cut a long story short, we basically met up, pulled, then she said she wasn't ready for a relationship, i declared my feelings, she had feelings for someone else. She cancels on meeting up on new years day and we haven't spoken since. Now in the midst of that fast and furious rundown is the fact that she said she still wanted to be friends.
Now I see friendship as being a two way street. Both parties have to make an effort. I made an effort. I tried to talk to her on the phone once and a few times on msn. I don't feel as if i didn't make an effort.
What really gets on my bug, and this is specifically with girl mates is that why is it always guys who have to say hi, or is this me. Like even if it's clearly plutonic, why is it. I get really frustrated when i'm mates with a guy or girl yet if i don't make the effort to call or get in contact in some way, i won't hear from them. With Cathy it's the same. Things are a little bit more complicated but i'm not here to blurt out my personal life.
I guess what i'm asking is; does anyone else feel the same? Like they are always the ones who have to make the effort to keep some sort of friendship alive. That when you guys decided to not get in contact for a good 2 weeks or so that they haven't said hello???
I always thought friendship is a two way thing. I'm not saying i'm a saint. I have been bad on some occasions but generally i think i'm pretty good.
I just don't get it. For guys, do you get this more when it comes to girl mates or are you just not bothered. Girls, how do you feel??
Until Next Time Guys
P.B
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