Cliches.....pffft who needs them

It has been a very while since my last post. My excuse is uni work....I took a self imposed break from any form of major communication of an online nature. Well not break just a reduction.
So the post today is about cliche. I think the majority of all of you would agree that cliche are awful, cringe worthy especially when you are told them like, "There are plenty more fish in the sea" or something else. I know they are more but that's the most often used one. The problem is, that I find, that they are actually true or are in part true.
For instance lets take opportunities of any kind whether its jobs, activities or relationships. The saying "Things happen when you least expect it" happen. For me it has been relationships. Whenever I have looked for a relationship it has never happened then I just go along life normally and someone that I either newly meet or wouldn't expect to go out with, I hook up with.
The problem I have with this is that, and personally for me, is that I can't really true plan anything. I mean lets say I want to carve out a career of some sort. At the minute nothing I have really planned for has happened, things have come out of the blue hence "Things happen when you least expect it".

My question for you guys is this.Has this happened to any of you? Has planning things worked or are you in a situation where you just take things as it comes.

As a secondary thing, do any of you lot really believe in cliche??

Until next time guys.

P.B

A Road Goes Two Ways

Well it's 2010, a new decade. I know it's belated by HAPPY NEW YEAR.......now on a personal note I have to say that the end of 2009 was a big stinker. I would like to begin my first post of 2010 with something more uplifting and inspiring but i'm not. Sorry to bursts everyones bubble but lets be realistic about this. How many of you have already broken a resolution you made just before midnight on the 31st of Decemeber 2009.

Now the theme of the post tonight is basically about relationships, whether this is friendship or with a partner but i guess it's mostly aimed at friendship. Near the end of 2009 I got more "involved" with a friend of mine, she is a girl as well. Lets call her Cathy. To cut a long story short, we basically met up, pulled, then she said she wasn't ready for a relationship, i declared my feelings, she had feelings for someone else. She cancels on meeting up on new years day and we haven't spoken since. Now in the midst of that fast and furious rundown is the fact that she said she still wanted to be friends.
Now I see friendship as being a two way street. Both parties have to make an effort. I made an effort. I tried to talk to her on the phone once and a few times on msn. I don't feel as if i didn't make an effort.

What really gets on my bug, and this is specifically with girl mates is that why is it always guys who have to say hi, or is this me. Like even if it's clearly plutonic, why is it. I get really frustrated when i'm mates with a guy or girl yet if i don't make the effort to call or get in contact in some way, i won't hear from them. With Cathy it's the same. Things are a little bit more complicated but i'm not here to blurt out my personal life.

I guess what i'm asking is; does anyone else feel the same? Like they are always the ones who have to make the effort to keep some sort of friendship alive. That when you guys decided to not get in contact for a good 2 weeks or so that they haven't said hello???

I always thought friendship is a two way thing. I'm not saying i'm a saint. I have been bad on some occasions but generally i think i'm pretty good.

I just don't get it. For guys, do you get this more when it comes to girl mates or are you just not bothered. Girls, how do you feel??

Until Next Time Guys

P.B

Being down 6 Feet Under

First of all I want to say. HAPPY CHRISTMAS!!!! :-D. I know it's Boxing day but i was busy stuffing my face with food and watching bad tv yet i was pleasantly surprised by the film Love Actually...hmmmm.

So today's early morn/late night post is basically about digging yourself into situations where you feel you can't get out of. Now i'm not saying that it is entirely your fault that you got yourself into "said" situation but all i'm merely pointing out in this post is to: "How you feel once you got into it?" "What can/have done to get out of it" and "Why".

Now i'm writing this because i basically feel as if i'm in one at the moment. It is a girl problem but i'm not going to digress on that. That's for another time and could take a few number of posts. But do you guys sometimes feel that there is no way out in certain situations. That basically whatever you do to try and rectify the situation, it just gets worse. For me, it feels as if that happens all the time. Whatever my gut/heart thinks....i go for it and the whole sha-bang goes south. That's why i keep asking for advice sometimes because what i've done, doesn't seem to work.
I do believe that you can get yourself out of a sticky situations but that takes skill. For instance university interviews. I was at an interview at York and the professor asked me why i wanted to do "said" course. I bullshitted and he caught me out but i managed to, in my belief,  get out of it because they gave me an unconditional offer.

I guess it all depends on the situation and how much experience you have within it. As in, have you been in it before, if so what did you try to recover it.

The problem is i guess is that people are not constant. Each person is different and that's good. It means we will always have interesting people to talk to and hang out but it also means that we cannot predict their behaviour so there is no set formula to guide us into handling certain situations.

I apologise for any grammar and/or spelling mistakes in this blog. I'm just in a bad mood and neeeded to let it out.

Until next time guys.

P.B.

How would you like to go back to the future

It's roughly 4am and I'm up doing uni work. Things have to be done unfortunately even when there is a holiday. Tears could just come out of tear ducts but i'm gonna hold back lol. So for my first blog I decided not to go down the theme of christmas, with the problem of getting presents and seeing family. I think everyone at the moment is having problem with presents, it just seems to be one of those things.


In actual fact I was gonna write about looking foward. I know that New Years is still around 2 weeks away but looking into the future has been on my mind for a while. 
I know in my head, in career terms, what I would like to happen. I will get into the career tree I want and start from the bottom and work up. It's the way it's going to be. I'll go back home, live there for a while and eventually move out. However what get's my noodle on the odd occasion is thinking how potentially different my life could be if I chose certain things at certain moments in my life. I don't regret now at how my life is now but there are certain things that I think that maybe I would have a better chance if I "did this" instead or "did that". 


In a way it's a thing that crosses everyone's mind but how much do you let it affect you. I have always and will try to continue to live my life without regrets. I'm not necessarily saying that I believe in fate (that topic will covered later) but you should live your life to the fullest and what ever comes in your way you should make the best out of it.


What I guess I'm trying to say and propose to you guys to comment about, is your future and how you see it and if you feel that the future you want could have had a greater chance in happening if you made certain decisions in the past. I do in a way but then i made some decisions recently to make my chances better.


I apologise for a slightly confusing first blog. They will get clearer as I grasp this "thing" better.


For now it's bed, the one thing i think most of us can rely on.


“ Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” Mahatma Gandhi


Laters people


PB :D

It's been snowing so i thought i start there.

Hi there, so my name is "Patrick Bruce", well it's not really my name it's something else but I will go into those reasons later, for now I will use this alias instead.I'm 22 and live in the South but not in London but near it.I won't go into too much about simple stats because that isn't why I did this. So I decided to start a blog today, just like probably hundreds or possibly thousands of other people for some simple reasons. I want to share my thoughts about certain aspects of life, life from a young persons point of view and essentially to share things that people around my age and possibly younger and older can relate to. That they are not alone and not the only ones thinking about it. Even though I have lived a very short life so far I feel I can help as much now as I can in lets say twenty years. I have been helped by friends and family and have helped them, I feel I can let my views spread to a wider audience. In some respects I feel I have views and thirties year old. Weird no??

So in essence I'm here to talk about life, things in the news, problems circulating people our age and to give hope and a sense of grounding for people. To give them peace of mind that someone else has or is going through what they are going through. I'm not going to preach, like you should do this or I think this and so should you!. I will try to give a balanced view but obviously it's going to be biased in one way because I'm the one feeling it. I would love for you to give your opinions and comments on the blogs. If you have been through something like it and would like to give advice then please post. This is an open forum, I'm just here to lay the foundations of thought.

It's not going to be too serious and dark and sad but you know, a nice frank view with the odd does of humour and seriousness. Think of it as South Park but not so hardcore, well no where near as hardcore.

So I'll give my first post in a few days, until then enjoy the snow and have fun.

P.S. The name for the blog is I think everyone can relate to :D